Sex, Samosas & Vibrators

So what do sex, samosas and vibrators have in common?

Here to tell us in her own witty words, is Jasmine Aziz, a retired vibrator saleswoman and author of the critically acclaimed novel; SEX AND SAMOSAS. This novel has been optioned off for a movie. Congratulations, Jasmine!

Also included on the blog is a recipe for samosa’s (recipe below). I should clarify, my version of samosa’s, not authentic, but still tasty and after reading Jasmine’s SEX AND SAMOSAS book (which I highly recommend)…..samosas are real fun and sexy to eat.

Plus, Heidi Wiley is back and gives us her thoughts on Jasmine’s book.

Please join me in welcoming the talented, funny and beautiful Jasmine as she chats with us about her adventures as a vibrator saleswoman.

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Welcome Jasmine

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“What is a retired vibrator seller?”

I get asked that question almost as much as “What is a samosa?” A samosa is a South Asian snack that is triangle shaped and stuffed with potatoes and peas, chicken or spinach.

I am second generation South Asian woman, not quite as triangular in shape as a samosa, who used to sell adult toys at home party presentations.  Picture a Tupperware party, but with dildos. Or as we used to call it in the business “Hump-her-ware.”

And how do the two go together? Now that’s a more difficult question to answer.

I sold vibrators for four years in the privacy of someone’s home. Just to be clear, I was asked to bring the toys to their house. It wasn’t a ding-dong, your dildo diva is here kind of thing. Women would host these parties in their homes, invite their girlfriends, have some wine and hopefully learn some new things and buy a few products to enhance their lives. I sold toys for two years in Ottawa, my home town, and two years in Toronto, the city I moved to in order to live with my boyfriend at the time.

The vibrator sales were incredible. The relationship was disastrous.

As time moved on I found myself standing in front of a room full of excited women espousing a great sex life weekend after weekend but going home to a toxic, sometimes hostile relationship I felt I was forced to stay in because of cultural pressures and a misguided idea of commitment. Only a few weeks after moving my entire life to be with my boyfriend, I made the decision to leave him. A few months after the break-up I was called to present at a Bollywood Bachelorette party.

The young bride-to-be was a stunning second generation South Asian woman, young and full of excitement about getting married to her perfect Indian prince. He was a doctor, she was a nurse and the ring on her finger was worth more than a small car. To me, she represented every dream I thought I had for my future and every bitter reminder that none of them would ever be realized. As the hostess passed around a plate of samosas, the idea of “Sex & Samosas” started to brew inside me.

“Everyone wants you to get married,” I started to rant. “They say, ‘Get married. Have children. Buy a house. You’ll be happy’ but no one in our culture really cares if you actually are happy spiritually, emotionally or sexually in that relationship. Just marry them off, hope for pretty grandchildren and move on to the next victim. ”

Sixteen sets of dark brown eyes stared at me in disbelief. The bride looked nervous and more than a little annoyed. I knew in my heart that it was the wrong time and place to stand on my soap box and expose my own bitterness and anxiety. It was, after all, a joyful occasion with red balloons, snacks and pretty white paper wedding bells hung between sari fabric on the party room walls.

I had something to say and they needed to hear it.

The truth is I needed to hear it. I needed to say it. After that night, I needed to write about it.

And write I did. Twelve hundred words in total.

I knew my first draft wasn’t the next “Moby Dick” (favourite words in titles aside) as it wasn’t surprising to me I would release all of my frustrations and angst into a word document. I had been writing since I was five years old. In high school I wrote a play. It was a modern take on the classic Cinderella story. Only in my version, the heroine was ethnic. She loses a running shoe instead of a glass slipper and in the end, the Prince finds her but she leaves him to run off and start her own company. It opened to rave reviews even if senior faculty closed the show after one night because the content “wasn’t suitable”.

Six years after starting “Sex & Samosas” I launched it and hoped for the best. My novel addresses gaining confidence in yourself, asserting your own identity and learning to find balance between personal, cultural and societal expectations. Basically, all of the issues I wrestled with after I left that toxic relationship not only with my boyfriend, but with myself. From the letters and emails that I’ve received since publishing my novel it seems that many people can relate to my protagonist. Writing this story began as a means to deal with my own personal issues and to provide access to information about sex and sexuality in a palatable and non-threatening way. If along the way, you find out what a samosa is, that’s a bonus.

If you never look at the triangle pastry the same way again after you read my book, well, that’s a whole other story.

Learn more about Jasmine by checking out her WEBSITE.

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Heidi Wiley’s Review

sex-and-samosas-coverLeena was less than enthused when a friend insisted she accompany her to a toy party. It wasn’t that she had anything against Barbies or building blocks; it was more that these toys were for grown-ups and she wasn’t sure if this was what she needed to spice up a sex life with her husband that was still loving but had become routine.  After some wine and a great sales pitch, Leena decided that maybe with a little instruction and some AA batteries, these feminine power tools could provide more pleasure than an Easy-Bake Oven ever could.

Using the first person narrative, Author Jasmine Aziz has created a story about a woman who at 32 is still unsure of her own sexuality, but is ready to test the boundaries to strengthen her relationship with her husband and discover more about her own desires in the process.

This is not only about a woman’s search for pleasure, but how being a part of two different cultures affects her view of intimacy, family, and  everyday life all with a great sense of humility and a healthy dose of humor.

With all the negative perceptions of how women think they should feel about sex, it’s nice to read an honest story about the exploration of erotic passion and what it means to a woman’s self-worth.

This sexy story is well-written, fun and relatable to women of all cultures who want to get the most out of their marriage and have new experiences along the way.

Selena’s Version of Samosas



1 TBSP olive oil

1 medium sweet onion (minced)

2 cups mashed potatoes

2 cups swiss chard (chopped up in small pieces and blanched)

1 garlic clove (minced)

2 tsp. curry powder

1 tsp. Kosher salt

1 tsp. freshly ground black pepper

12 ounces piecrust (you can buy pre-made pie crust or make your own, also, you can use gluten-free pie crust you can get at a health food store or make your own)

**Note** You can use peas in place of swiss chard.


Heat oven to 375° F.

Heat pan on stove to medium heat, then add oil.

To pan add: onion, garlic, curry powder, salt & pepper and cook until softened and a light brown (about 10 minutes), and stirring the whole time.

Add the potatoes and swiss chard and stir, cooking for another 2 minutes to meld the vegetables, potatoes and other ingredients.

Remove from stove.

Roll out the pie crust and cut into 6 triangles.

Add a heaping tablespoon of the vegetable mixture in the center of each triangle.

Fold over and pinch the seams to seal, so they resemble a triangle when folded.

Line a baking sheet with parchment paper (or use a non-stick spray).

Bake in oven for 25 minutes, until golden.

Serve with either a salsa (in which case, you are infusing a Mexican and East Asian dish) or with your favorite chutney.

12 responses to “Sex, Samosas & Vibrators”

  1. Thanks for the review Heidi….the book sounds like fun. Selena, those Samosa’s look so yummy! Definitely will have to try. Thanks.


    1. Thanks Pat, I agree those Samosas do look good 🙂


    2. I appreciate you dropping by, Pat. Definitely try this recipe, you will enjoy it and makes a great appetizer for guests. 🙂


  2. Fantastic review, Heidi! I can’t wait to read the book. Now, Selena, about these samosas…… I’ll likely make them because certain members of my family like vegetables. I, on the other hand, will just have to live vicariously. I love you, but you lost me at Swiss chard ;).


    1. Thanks, LB, and for people like you, you can omit the swiss chard (how could you NOT LOVE THAT??? We need to discuss this. Good thing I love you too. 🙂 ) You can use spinach, if that gives you hives, then no veggies, potatoes, cheese and bacon…it won’t be a samosa, but it will be sort of like one and one I know you’ll enjoy.


    2. Thanks ladybug, I hear you on the Swiss chard thing I don’t even know what it is 😉


  3. Heidi did write a lovely review! I’m so grateful! And Selena isn’t just a great chef, she’s a beautiful soul. Selena, Soul & Samosas!


    1. I agree, Jasmine, Heidi’s reviews always capture the emotional elements of the book without giving too much away. Thanks again, Heidi for the review and thanks to you, Jasmine for writing such a fun and informative post.

      We welcome you back any time!


      1. Thank you Selena for having me and my reviews on your blog and for all your hard work on the blog 🙂


    2. Thank you Jasmine, it was a lot of fun. 🙂


  4. Pat & Ladybug – I really hope you enjoy the book and that it makes you “hungry” in other ways and that you devour it like Selena’s samosas!!!


    1. LB and Pat will definitely enjoy this book, and they will be eating samosas in a totally different way after reading it 😉


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