We Should All Take A Lesson From Melissa McCarthy

Please join me in welcoming Maureen H. Cronin to the blog. Maureen has penned an inspiring, thought-provoking essay.

 

We Should All Take A Lesson From Melissa McCarthy by Maureen H. Cronin

For those of us who don’t exactly embrace our bodies, and frankly, I don’t know any women that do, I’d like to give a strong shout out to Melissa McCarthy.

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She’s funny. She’s self-deprecating. She’s pretty. She has a dimple. She’s talented. She’s overweight. Which one do you think of first? If it’s overweight, you’re like 9 out of 10 women who judge themselves as harshly as they do others. You’re like me, and my sister, and my friends, who identify this extremely talented woman by her weight. Why? Because we define ourselves that way.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve had moments in time where I think I’ve looked good. I have photographs, looking back at after a few years, where I look better than I thought I did when I first saw the picture. I even have a picture of me in a little black dress that my family is instructed to give to the police should I ever get kidnapped. I’ve gotten whistles, men crossing the street to meet me… I’ve turned some heads. I know this because my sister tells me. I know this because my mother has said it. They wouldn’t lie about it. My thoughts about that? That “they” were probably looking at the run in my stocking, or the smear of mascara under my eye, or my bad haircut.

Let me clarify what I mean by “my thoughts”. ‘My thoughts’ is this voice inside my head that tells the world it’s being humble or self-deprecating when it’s really the meanest, harshest judgmental bitch you will ever run across. It’s the one who sees every minor flaw, every non-tight area of my body, every drooping breast, every laugh line, every gray hair. It rarely takes in the whole picture. I mean, if you put the Mona Lisa under a microscope, all you’d see would be brush strokes of color. So is it fair what I do to myself? No. It’s not even sane.

And how many times have I let this judgmental bitch (let’s stick with JB from now on) prevent me from doing something I wanted? How many times has JB made me wear a jacket because my butt or my stomach wasn’t a sculpted, muscle-gleaming body on the cover of an exercise DVD? Too many times.

1One of the women I idolized growing up (before I grew up and it became my mother) was Carol Burnett. I wanted to be the next Carol Burnett. I wanted to have a show and talk to the audience, and wear all those dresses, and do skits on movies and place bets on how soon any given skit could make Harvey Korman laugh hysterically.

Here’s the thing: I am funny. I am kind of a ham and I could have done something along those lines. I went to school for television production. I’ve performed standup comedy. I tell a great story. But JB hated the way I looked on television. And I went behind the scenes. The underground for performers-at-heart.

I’ve done a lot of work to shut down JB. And I’ve had a lot of validation – from men, women, my family, friends, strangers. It feels nice. But there is an inordinate amount of attention placed on being pretty. And people think you don’t have any problems because you look good. Not so. JB goes into full frontal assault at those times, and it’s taken repeated and consistent efforts to shut her down and go forth as a woman of grace, talent, and imperfections. Even more work to embrace all of it.

So thank you, Melissa McCarthy. Brave, to-hell-with-ya smiling, Melissa McCarthy. Melissa McCarthy, who does physical comedy, as well as my little girl hero. Fearless Melissa McCarthy, who uses every gift in her arsenal to her advantage. Melissa McCarthy, who has carried a movie on her own and stolen the show more than once. Melissa McCarthy, who plays characters that are funny, smart and sexual; who never plays women too fat for men to love. Melissa McCarthy, who is right now, inspiring young girls and young women who maybe don’t feel pretty enough or thin enough to be in front of a camera. Girls who need to borrow that bravery until they find it within themselves. Melissa McCarthy, who has shown me, more than any of those svelte, hot-yoga-ing, leaf eating actresses, what beauty and courage are all about.

About Maureen Cronin:

1Maureen Cronin is the author of Go Faster Go: Memoir of a Friendas well as numerous articles.

She is also an artist with exhibitions in the Long Beach public library and a website dedicated to artwork created on the famed Long Beach Boardwalk destroyed in Superstorm Sandy.

To learn more about Boardwalk Angels, One-of-a-kind Artwork, Gifts and Home Decor, follow on Facebook and/or visit Maureen’s website.

Look for Maureen’s new blog: Smart is the New Blonde, coming soon.

 

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6 thoughts on “We Should All Take A Lesson From Melissa McCarthy

  1. Nice to meet you Maureen. I really enjoyed your message, and have a JB inside my head also. One who gets hurt feelings very easily! Looking forward to your blog…..

    • Thanks for stopping by, Pat. I think many of us have a JB, but we have to learn to control her and not the other way around, but we are women, we are emotional creatures and we are also pretty cool, if I say so myself. 🙂

  2. I love Melissa McCarthy and her movies. Her confidence is awesome and yes we could all learn from her. 🙂

  3. Nice to meet you Maureen, I loved this message. I have JB inside me to, I love Melissa McCarthy to she is my hero. I’ve always struggled with a weight problem and it took me along time to realize I was pretty too!

  4. Excellent post. I think Melissa McCarthy is an inspiration to every woman. Wish the fashion industry would get on board the ‘real woman’ train and stop idolizing size 2’s!

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